NEW! Poly Absurdities Monthly
Just for Fun
What is Polyamory?
Polyamory for the Practical
Our Little Quad's Frequently Asked Questions
What is polyamory?
Yes, this is the primary question we get asked in chat. Polyamory
literally "multiple loves". We find the "amory" part of this most
Do your husbands... Uhhh?? Well, you know...
No, they don't. It is not a forgone conclusion that in a poly quad,
sleeps together. Each family is different. Polyamorous
have more or
less the same range of sexual styles as monogamous people.
Don't you get jealous when your husband sleeps with the "other woman"?
She's not the "other woman", she's my wife. No, I don't get jealous
do get jealous of other things from time to time. I wish I could
Beast, or write music like the Goddess of Giggle or play piano as
well as Our
Prince. (I'm just not too musically talented). There are
times when any one
of us might feel ganged up on when the others have
"issues" with one behavior
or another. Sexual jealousy isn't the issue.
TIME with each other in various
combinations often is. With a business to
run, a house to keep up and children
to rear, time is a problem.
How do you decide who sleeps with whom?
Good question... Unless someone makes a specific request, we usually
two people to kind of wander off to a bedroom together. It makes
late nights. Well, we used to do this. Now it's just two nights with one
spouse, two with another.... It keeps things fair.
What do you do if you're caught in bed with the person who is not your
Just like any other parent, stop what you're doing in a panic and blush a
while demanding why they couldn't
, while fuming internally at the poor timing.
If nothing is really going on, which is far more likely to be the case,
child is likely to climb into the bed for cuddles, a story and demands
breakfast. You know, just like any other marriage.
Aren't you doing this because you cannot handle commitment and are taking
easy way out?
Our quad is a loving family. This poly marriage is a very rewarding
Lean in closer, class so you can hear me well:
It's not the easy way out!
Marriage in general is not easy -- if you're trying to make it work well.
have two people with all the baggage of former lives and points of
desires and what not. Try that times four, with all the issues
long-term marriages thrown in. (My original husband and I have been
for twelve years, our spice for eight). Like any marriage, it
love and understanding. It requires that you know what you
are doing and being
willing to accept the consequences of your actions. It
We are committed to each other and to making this marriage last.
Copyright © 2000-2002, OurLittleQuad.com, All Rights Reserved.
If you're actually a member of a group marriage, you can join this list. Most
of us find it refreshing to be able to discuss poly issues with people who
"live the dream" as it were. You don't actually have to be a member of a poly
marriage to join, but most members are.